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Human beings are social animals. We live our whole life as part of a complex and changing network of interconnected relationships between ourselves and other people. As we move through our life there are many stages and situations we have to cope with. There are particular times when we make transitions into different roles which can create a range of problems such as when we leave education and start our working life, or when we get married or find a partner. Other major transitions may include having children or suffering a serious illness or bereavement.

A quick look at some of the statistics demonstrate how, as a society and as individuals, we have difficulties in managing our relationships with others. Divorce, relationship break ups, the amount of stress related illness which results in absences from work, the huge increase in mental health problems such as depression, the increasing rates of suicide and people deliberately self harming; all of these problems show just how difficult it is for us to manage our relationships.

The fact is that our relationship problems can also lead us to develop a whole range of individual mental health difficulties such as anxiety and depression. The stress of modern life; the increasing need to balance family life and work and personal life are leading more and more of us into increased conflict with those we live and work with.

Indeed, if you look at the amount of self-help books devoted to how to improve your personal and work relationships you will find an ever expanding amount of authors willing to share with you how you can improve your relationship. There is no doubt that a huge market exists for this advice because of the increasing problems people have in dealing with their relationship difficulties.

So, what kinds of relationship problems do we experience? The following is just a brief example of some of the major areas of relationship problems we can experience.

Divorce. The rate of marriage failures and break ups in long term relationships are nothing short of phenomenal. And, relationship break ups do not just affect the adults who are in the relationship. Children, friends and extended family members are all, to some extent affected by any relationship break up.

Conflict between parents and children. We are told it is almost to be expected that parents will have “trouble” with their children at various stages throughout a child’s development, especially when they reach adolescence. Indeed there is a serious rise in child and adolescent mental health problems such as depression in childhood. This is underlined by the worrying trend in increased self harming behavior and suicide amongst young people.

Conflict at work. The world of work creates huge stress for many employees and employers. Stress at work is now a widely recognised occupational hazard which can create serious physical and mental health problems for individuals and in some circumstances even legal liability for employers.

How can the Solutions Method help?

The Solutions Method provides an effective problem solving model and teaches techniques which can be applied to relationship difficulties. The fact is that few of us are taught how to successfully manage our relationships. We are not told what steps we can take to try to improve and resolve any relationship difficulties. There is lots of advice available, but often much of what is available can leave us more confused or feeling inadequate or guilty. There are certain key steps which must be taken to resolve our problems, including our relationship problems. The Solutions Method teaches these key steps.